Why We F*ck

Let’s get serious. Really, why do we f*ck?

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Some spend an inordinate amount of time asking this question but not *doing it*! Others don’t ask questions, just have fun, and *do it* as often as possible. Some struggle to find fun within a monogamous relationship. Others are find their fun where they may in many a way.

We talk about cheating or express regret for our youthful promiscuous youth, all the while just wanting to *do it*!

So, what’s driving us? Why do we seek multiple partners? Why do so many struggle with monogamy? From our earliest years, we are curious about sex and very sexual. Why is that? Well, if you trust the unfiltered behaviors of babes, you’d say it’s only natural.

David Cain of Raptitude.com who writes about “what makes human beings do what they do, and what that means in real life.” offers a street level view of why we f*ck and why it’s sooooo good…for all of us! He writes about how Thomas Hobbes really screwed us and screwed us up and uses quotes from evolutionary psychologist and author Christopher Ryan, from his book Sex At Dawn to explain why we like to f*ck and why it is so good for us personally and more importantly, for society.

As I think about this, it occurs to me that our conservative, Teapublican, New Age Christians have gotten bits of it right. They are promiscuous. After all, red states in the US have the highest divorce rates. They care about all children, at least until they’re born, and they care about society at large as long as it only involves prayers and blessings, but doesn’t involve their money.

Here’s the article – Why We Fck. It’s great and thought-provoking. I want to see your comments below! Trolls and spammers need not apply! http://www.raptitude.com/2012/06/why-we-fck/

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Make Love, Not Porn – A TED Talk


I love TED talks. I particularly like TED talks that address sexual issues because I can tell myself I’m educating myself while also pleasuring myself…at least, mentally!  

I’d love to read your comments and opinions about what she has to say about making love versus making porn and how porn is changing our expectations about what making love looks like.

via Cindy Gallop: Make love, not porn Adult content – YouTube.

Pearl Restraints

Pearls inspire. I used to sleep in my pearls because I loved their velvety texture against my skin and their warmth they got from my body.

I’m probably the only person you’ll ever know who was fired from a job over pearls…. I was editing reader-submitted stories for a few different soft-core magazines published in the US and Canada when one day I found myself finally reading a very creative and titillating story about a string of pearls and their creative use in a seduction. The managing editor insisted the pearls be removed as “some of our readers could get hurt trying to do this.” Without the pearls there was no story. I lost the fight and my job, but I kept my pearls.

Over the years I’ve added more than a few strands of pearls to my collection, some more permanent that others….

When I saw this 10-foot strand of pearls, the fantasies started sliding into my mind just like this long, single strand of warm gems of the ocean. I had to share these with you. If you don’t already know Kiki de Montparnasse, thank me in the comments for introducing you to these beautiful, truly inspiring toys and lingerie, especially when you open the gift box overflowing with pearls. I think I might be tamed, at least for awhile, if I found myself wrapped in these Pearl Restraints….


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SOPA Is Not Spanish for Soup…

nor is it about getting squeaky clean after getting dirty.

In a country that used to be so free just a few years ago, we are seeing more and more of our rights eroded almost on a daily basis. Certainly, those who enjoy adult pleasures are probably more aware than most about the extent of censorship. Now, we are only 41 days away from the possibility of Congress passing a measure that would put an end to countless websites that depend on user-generated content. This is all in the interest or, rather, interests of the film and music industries to try to put a stop to online piracy of their copyrighted material. What the “Stop Online Piracy Act” will do is make the Internet a lot less fun and interesting while further eroding freedoms.

If you’d like to know more, just go to this Pearltree about • SOPA • curated by curators.

Hurry! This is one of those uber-cool sites that could very well disappear if we don’t mobilize and let our Representatives and Senators in Washington know we oppose SOPA. Please consider taking a couple minutes to take action against SOPA. Just click on the headline above….

And, because you’re all such well-behaved Little Kinks, here’s a great image to fantasize about….compliments of TremblingFluidHeat

3D Book of Breasts

UrbanDaddy has done it again! A great deal on a great Taschen book of beautiful, natural, luscious boobies! But, you have to hurry because their deal expires in just about 3 days. So, reach and grab some of that, uh, savings 36% savings! It Includes a special set of the original 3DD and 3DD Deluxe books, plus a pair of aviator-style 3D glasses.

Grab your 3D glasses for the full effect.


Best wishes for a fabulous, boobylicious 2012, Little Kinks!

This Post Will Expire In Two Days

The Big Book of Breasts, 3DSex=Good. Discounts=Good. Sex+Discounts = Positively Tasty!

This post has an expiration date of just a little more than two (2) days because that’s when this great sale ends. Fab.com, currently my favorite curated shopping site, always has seductive and special offerings. But, this weekend they decided to really sex it up with sales on Sir Richard’s Condoms, most, if not all of Taschen‘s Erotic Art Books, discounts on ticket packages for the Museum of Sex in New York, some very fancy dog collars and leashes.

The Big Penis Book 3DThere’s more, but those are the highlights, I think. My imagination has been running out of control this afternoon.

I’d love to read your most clever stories about leashes and studded dog collars. Pretty please? Indulge me…you’ll be so happy you did. Just post as a Comment. 


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Unspoken Codes

Whether we know it or not, we all have an unspoken language to communicate our desire…or lack thereof. The tiniest little biting of a lower lip can communicate so much. Nerves? Desire? Longing? Flirting? Just sitting here in my solitude, thinking about that one little signal causes me to catch my breath, makes my heart speed up, makes me begin to ache…

Codes and rituals can eventually become codified, byzantine languages that are only understood by those in the know and their initiates. For example, Hanky Codes.

What is your unspoken code…?